In the Name of Allâh, the Most Beneficent, the Most Merciful
In my previous posts, matters relating to anal sex were being discussed in considerable detail according to the Quran and Sunnah of our beloved Prophet Mohammad (SAW).
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There now remains another form of sex that I promised my readers to be published soon. It is said in the Quran that whoever fulfills his promise and guards (against) evil, then Allah loves them a lot [Quran 3:76-77]. It is therefore important to fulfill this promise of mine.
Now that we’ve walk through anal sex and its position in Islam, It is very important to understand the Islamic viewpoint on oral sex as well.
Oral sex is the use of the mouth or the tongue to stimulate another person’s genitals. Oral stimulation of the male organ is called fellatio, whilst oral stimulation of the female genitalia is known as cunnilingus.
The term oral sex covers a wide range of activities, from simply kissing the genitalia to the actual taking in and swallowing of sexual fluids. As such, the Islamic ruling will depend on what exactly is entailed by this term. Let’s carefully look at them bellow;
- If oral sex entails inserting the manhood into the wife’s mouth to the extent that she swallows or takes impure or filthy substances such as semen or pre-ejaculatory fluid (madhy) into the mouth, or the husband placing his mouth onto the wife’s womanhood to the point that he takes her discharge in his mouth, then this is sinful.
If there is fear of this, and this fear is at the level of likelihood, then it is also impermissible.
It is unlawful to intentionally swallow filthy and impure substances or to introduce them into the mouth. This includes all male and female genital excretions and sexual fluids such as urine, pre-ejaculatory fluid, semen and wady, a thick white, cloudy, fluid that exits either before or after urinating.
Even though semen is not considered impure according to some scholars, for example the Shaafiis, contrary to the Hanafis, they nevertheless hold its oral intake to be prohibited. As such, swallowing or consuming all forms of sexual fluids of the wife or husband is forbidden.
Allah (STW) makes unlawful for them filthy things [Qur’an 7:157]
2) If oral sex is practiced and all precautions are taken to prevent sexual fluids from entering the mouth, for example if the couple are only gently kissing each other’s genitalia without any fear or likelihood of consuming sexual fluids, then it is permitted, although disliked and improper.
It may be considered as a form of foreplay, similar to kissing other parts of the body and so permitted, but disliked, as placing one’s mouth on one’s spouse’s genitalia is against religious propriety.
The famous Hanafi Fiqh reference states: “If a man inserts his penis into his wife’s mouth, it has been said that it is disliked (makrilh), and others hold that it is not disliked.” (AlFatawa al-Hindiyya 5:372)
This clear passage in one of the major reference of hanafi Figh indicates that there is a scholarly difference about the permissibility of a man inserting his penis into his wife’s mouth.
According to some scholars it is disliked, whilst others permit it. It should be remembered that both, those who allow it and those who consider it disliked, stipulate that no sexual fluids enter the spouse’s mouth as mentioned earlier.
Normally, this is difficult to avoid. Because of this, and because it is generally considered contrary to the proper conduct of a Muslim, most contemporary scholars hold this practice to be disliked, even if the transfer of sexual fluids is avoided.
The mouth is a noble part of one’s body and is the means of reciting the Qur’an, remembrance of Allah (dhikr) and sending salutations on the blessed Messenger of Allah (SAW).
Finally, if one’s spouse demands oral sex, it is not obligatory to agree to it, even if precautions are taken to avoid sexual fluids coming into contact with the mouth. The wife is only obliged to make herself available for sex, whilst the husband is required to have sex with her enough to maintain her chastity.
This brings us to the end of this topic. Don’t keep this to yourself, make sure to spread it to your married friends/relatives. As I mentioned in my previous post, people feel so embarrassed to ask a scholar directly when it comes to topics like this since it is part of one’s private matters. Don’t forget to drop your comments; it could be addition to the above, questions, suggestions, etc.
May the almighty Allah grant us knowledge which is beneficial and grant us goodness both in this world and the hereafter. Aamen.