How to be a good Muslim wife in marriage

Are you dreaming to become a good Muslim wife!

It’s good to dream. It’s healthy and gives us optimistic minds.

Most sisters dream for tall/short good looking, and upright Men to marry (every sister knows her dream).

Finally, your desired man is now yours and the Nikah vow is over. Your wedding is grand and your dream seemed fulfilled now.  What’s next?

good muslim wifeA good Muslim wife is one of the best treasures for Muslim men. But to be a good wife is one that requires patience and hard-work. Everything good is worth seeking, so never stop pursuing this dream.

A woman came to Prophet (PBUH) about some matter, and when he had dealt with it, he asked her, “Do you have a husband”. She said, “Yes”. He asked her, “How are you with him”. She said, “I never fall short in my duties, except for that which is beyond me”. He said, “Pay attention to how you treat him, for he is your Paradise and your Hell.” [Ahmad, An-Nasai]

Verbalise your love for your husband


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Although it’s true that actions speak louder than words. Words too matter. Take a moment every now and then to verbalize your feelings for your husband. A simple “I love you” or “You mean the world to me” can do miracles in your marriage. It makes your husband feel loved, cared for, and secured.

Also, small acts of physical intimacy can give your husband a warm feeling and convey the love and affection you feel for him.

Share your life with him

Don’t keep your likes and dislikes, dreams and fears, achievements and mistakes, or anything else to yourself. If it’s important to you, it’s important to him too as well as your marriage.

Whatever it is, share it with your husband and similarly be supportive when your husband faces life’s little challenges. Listen to what’s bothering him and offer whatever help you can – even if it’s just sympathy.

Submit to your husband

Submission to your husband is one of the most important etiquettes in your married life. Never think that sex is all that you have to offer to be loved.


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Just like how you needed your husband to be like when you were single. a righteous man will also not look out for a woman who will only satisfy his sex drive. It is true that every woman has womanhood but not every woman has humility.

Believe me, when you are a humble woman, you are not a lowly wife; rather you are an expensive jewelry. And a man of integrity will fear to lose you. The Holy Prophet (ﷺ) talked a lot about this, some of which I have stated below;

The best women is she who when you look at her, she pleases you, when you command her she obeys you, and when you are absent, she protects her honor and your property.” – Prophet Mohammad

“If the woman prayed her five daily prayers, fasted her month, protected her chastity and obeyed her husband, she will be told, ‘Enter Paradise from any of its doors you wish.”- Prophet Mohammad

“If I were to command anyone to prostrate before anyone, I would have commanded the wife to prostrate before her husband, because of the enormity of his right upon her”- Prophet Mohammad

What does the Holy Quran also say?  “wife, submit to your husband.“[Quran 4:34].

You will only face the love of your husband when you are submissive. Your beauty cannot make another woman ugly but your humility can let him love you above all other women. When you bow your knee before your husband, he will automatically bow his heart before her love and love you sincerely.

Be the queen you want to be. But when it comes to dealing with your husband, play the role of a humble wife.

Be Grateful to him

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Ibn Abbas (RA) reported that Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said:

“O Women, give charity, for I have surely seen that you from the majority of the inhabitants of Hell.” They asked, ‘why is this so, O Messenger of Allah?’ He said, “Because you curse too much, and are ungrateful for good treatment (on the part of your husband) [Sahih Bukhari and Sahih Muslim.]

This hadith is clearly stating how women are ungrateful to their husbands. Gratitude to one’s husband means being thankful to him, noticing simple pleasures and acknowledging everything that you received from him. It means learning to live your life with him as if everything about you two were a miracle.

Like our beloved Prophet (ﷺ) said, researchers have also come to the same conclusion that gratitude heightened quality life. In fact, being grateful to your husband will cool his heart toward you and will make him increase his care and attention for you.

Thus, cultivate the habit of being grateful for every good thing that comes to you from your husband. And give thanks continuously and Insha-Allah everything will be as you dreamt for.

Support him in his decisions.

Don’t go against his decisions. If you dislike something, talk to him gently when he is in a good mood and give him reasons for your opinion.

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Our beloved Prophet (ﷺ) said,

“It is not permitted for a woman who believes in Allah to allow anyone into her husband’s house whom he dislike; or to go out when he does not want her to; or to obey anyone else against him; to forsake his bed; or to hit him. If he is wrong, then let her come to him until he is pleased with her, and if he accepts her then all is well, Allah will accept her deeds and make her position stronger, and there will be no sin on her. If he does not accept her then at least she will have done her best and excused herself in the sight of Allah” [Al Hakim 2/190 ]

The above hadith said it all. Rules are rules and your husband’s rules should matter a lot to you. Everybody has what they like and dislike. That’s why you need to compromise as a husband and a wife. Talk things through to know your boundaries.

Don’t argue with him when he is angry

Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said:

“Shall I not tell you about your wives in Paradise.” We said “of course, O Messenger of Allah. He said, “They are fertile and loving. If she became angry or is mistreated, or her husband becomes angry, she says, “My hand is in your hand, I shall never sleep until you are pleased with me.” [At-Tabarani].

Be sensible what you spend from his earnings

It was narrated that ‘Aa’ishah said:

“Hind bint ‘Utbah, the wife of Abu Sufyaan, entered upon the Messenger of Allah (PBUH) and said, ‘O Messenger of Allah, Abu Sufyaan is a stingy man who does not spend enough on me and my children, except for what I take from his wealth without his knowledge. Is there any sin on me for doing that?’ The Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, ‘Take from his wealth on a reasonable basis, only what is sufficient for you and your children.’” [Sahih Bukhari, 5049; Sahih Muslim, 1714]

Don’t ask him for more than he can afford

Prophet (ﷺ) said,

“The best women are the women of Quraysh. They are the most compassionate towards their children and the most careful with regards to their husband’s wealth.” [Sahih Muslim 16/81]

Never deny Him sex without a reason!


It was narrated that Abu Hurayrah (AS) reported:

“The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: ‘When a man calls his wife to his bed and she refuses, and he went to sleep angry with her, the angels will curse her until morning.’” (Bukhari & Muslim)

Prophet (PBUH) said,

“Allah will curse those procrastinating women who when their husbands call them to their beds, say I will, I will…, until he (the husband) falls asleep.” (At-Tabarani)

Among the objectives of marriage is to satisfy one’s sexual needs in a lawful manner. And if either spouse is unfulfilled, the temptation to look elsewhere can become overwhelming. Sex is unique with your husband alone making it vitally important in marriage.

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One More Thing: Please share! It is an ongoing charity for me and you. I pray that Allah accept our effort and protect us. May He (swt) make our actions sincerely for His sake and include them on our scale of good deeds on the Day of Judgement. Aamen,