Last updated on February 17th, 2018 at 07:59 am
Question: Dear scholars, Assalamu Alaikum. Is a fasting wife allowed to sleep next to her fasting husband without the intention of sexual intercourse? Jazakum Allah khayran.
Wa`alaykum as-salamu warahmatullahi wabarakatuh. In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful. All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.
There is nothing wrong with husband and wife sharing a bed while both of them are fasting if they have no fear of being carried away by their desires to invalidate their fast.
In his response to your question, Sheikh Ahmad Kutty states:
There is nothing wrong for you to share the bed with your wife while both of you are fasting unless, of course, you fear that by doing so you will find yourself unable to control your desires and thus be led to invalidate your fast by engaging in sexual intercourse, in which case you are best advised against it.
We read in the traditions that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) was once asked by a man whether he could kiss his wife while fasting, to which he replied, no, but when another man asked him the same question he told him, yes. Explaining the reason for the divergent responses, Ibn `Abbas, one of the eminent Companions of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:
“The first was a young man (and the Prophet presumed that he would be carried away by his desires and thus may end up invalidating his fast by engaging in sexual intercourse), while the second was an elderly person (who he thought was in a better position to restrain himself).”
Similarly, we also read the statement of `A’ishah, the beloved wife of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him), that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) use to kiss his wife while fasting, but she further added, “But who among you is able to restrain his desire as the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) was wont to?”
Based on the above considerations, if you are sure of yourself and have no fear of being carried away by your desires to invalidate your fast, then you are definitely allowed to sleep in the same bed with your wife while fasting.
Allah Almighty knows best.