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Love vs Lust in Islam

Lust in Islam

In recent time it appears as though the entire idea of cherishing someone has been cast out from the religion of Islam – Many people consider the concept of ‘love’ and ‘lust’ as something that Islam forbids in its entirety, whether it be felt inside or outside of wedlock.

As Muslims have begun to adopt non-Muslim customs in their weddings and marriages, we find a great loss in the etiquette of treasuring a partner as if he or she were the most prized possession in the world.

However, there are narrations of the Prophet showing an intimate and compassionate side to his wives for a reason. These narrations could have been left hidden by Allah, but in the Prophet, we discover the perfect morals and etiquettes to treat our partners with.

The feeling of love and lust is not one that is unknown to Islam. Allah says in the Qur’an,

“And it is among His signs that He has created for you wives from among yourselves, so that you may find tranquility in them, and He has created love and kindness between you. Surely in this there are signs for a people who reflect.” – Quran 30:21

In this verse of the Qur’an, Allah refers to the relationship which emits from the relationship of marriage as something that brings love and tranquility. On the contrary, a person who leaves the Sharia aspect of love and opts for lust finds his heart very heavy and tainted. Animalistic and hedonistic behavior may provide some minor pleasure for a short period of time but it will not provide the solace and harmony created through marriage.

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Such negative attributes of haram love are not unknown to Islam and are mentioned in detail in the Qur’an, in Surah Yusuf.

Haram love was also seen in the time of the Prophet and the blessed periods that succeeded his time; there are narrations of individuals who had carried out some improper action but it was their specialty that they would repent abundantly.

In one narration mentioned in Mishkatul Masabih, a woman who committed fornication in the time of Rasulullah made such repentance that Rasulullah himself stated:

“Verily, she has repented in such a great manner that if her repentance was to be shared upon the people of Madina, it would be enough for them (to attain salvation).”

The issue of forbidden love is a problem that we face today and this was also a matter that was prevalent in the periods which were rendered to be immensely blessed by the Prophet.

Quite simply, for as long as man and women will remain on the face of this earth, the issue will remain. The reason for this is that out of all the modes of worship made accessible to mankind, only two have existed from the beginning of time and will continue to do so in the hereafter. The first is Iman (belief in Allah) and the second is marriage.

Thus for marriage to be continued, attraction to one another must also continue and those who shun the bond of wedlock will fall into the trap of such unwanted love.

Sheikh ‘Abdullah Ibn Mubarak was a man who became a great scholar of Islam. He was truly a friend of Allah so much so that once his mother went out searching for him and found him sleeping in an orchard near a rose tree. To her astonishment, she found that a snake was fanning him with a branch from a Narcissus tree.

Nevertheless, prior to him becoming a great saint, Sheikh ‘Abdullah was intensely in love with a beautiful slave-girl. His love for her grew as time would pass and once during a winter night, he stood near her home in hope of seeing her.

His love for her was so strong that he stood the entire night until the morning waiting to see her but she had not left her house once. His efforts were in vain and he became so upset and regretful that he wasted his night that he said, “If I had spent the night in worshipping Allah, it would have been a thousand times better than what I have done.

His regret was so huge that Allah had opened up his heart and his false love was replaced with Divine love. Sheikh ‘Abdullah Ibn Mubarak thereafter rectified himself completely and submitted himself to Allah.

Allah can enjoin sincere and loyal companionship upon a person if he abandons the pull of haram relationships and diverts his life prior to marriage towards the obedience of his Creator.

Islam does not negate the feelings of the heart, rather it negates the feelings which lead one to rebellion and that which causes vast problems. There is no ban on having fun as long as it coincides with the restrictions placed by the Sharia.

It is perfectly fine for a person to play football with his friends or go to the gym. However, this becomes problematic when prayer is missed for the sake of a football match. Likewise, to love somebody from deep within your heart is emphasized on as long as the two lovers are permitted to love each other (i.e. through matrimony).

The heart itself is a very important part of the Muslim’s body. From this heart emits the feelings of love, anger, joy and many other emotions. However these feelings are determined halal or haram by the actions that emanate from them.

For example, a person can be angry but if in his anger he has hit his Muslim brother, his actions have rendered his anger haram. If he had suppressed his anger and recited T’awwuz (a ‘udhu billahi minash shaytaanir rajim) he would be from among those people whom Allah loves.

In the same way, love is not wrong if it is for Allah or for family. But this love becomes haram when it targeted at a boyfriend or girlfriend, a partner outside wedlock, a ‘fling’ with no repercussions.

This is why the Prophet has mentioned,

“Surely, in the body there is a lump of flesh which when it is sound the whole body is sound and when it is corrupt the whole body is corrupt. Truly, it is the heart.”

Similarly, it is mentioned in the Musnad of Imam Ahmad, on the authority of Anas that the Prophet said:

“The belief of a slave will not be straight until his heart is straight.” Ahmad

What is meant here is that the bodily actions will not be in accordance with Islam until the heart is. For whatever becomes a bodily action is the output of the heart.

Therefore, if the heart is in accordance with Islam, one’s belief and bodily actions will be too and a core which is filled with affection for Allah will always want to obey Him and never disobey Him.

lbn Rajab mentions:

“If his heart is sound and there is nothing in it but love of Allah and love of what Allah loves and fear of Allah and fear of falling into that which He dislikes, then all of the actions of the limbs will be right, and there will arise from that his avoidance of all forbidden things and his guarding himself against ambiguities in case he should fall into things which are forbidden. If the heart is corrupt and it is overcome by following desires and seeking what he loves even if Allah dislikes it, then all of the limbs; movements will be corrupt and will give rise to every act of disobedience and (engagement in every) ambiguous matter according to the extent of his following the hearts’ desire … For this reason it is said that the heart is the king of the limbs and organs; the other limbs and organs are its troops.”

It is for this reason the Prophet would say in his supplication,

“O Allah, I ask You for a sound heart.”

This is why it is imperative for us as Muslims to fight our desires in the various societies we enter. Many of us are working in places which are of mixed genders and we find that we have to interact with the other sex on a regular basis. This is not just for people who work but this also applies to students who go to colleges and universities.

Society has advocated that we find ourselves partners to become intimate with. This type of ideology has found its way into the lives of young and old Muslims alike and now we find many Muslims engaged in relationships from young ages.

Recent culture has subconsciously given people an incentive to imitate the sweet romantic relationships that they see on their televisions in their own lives. Through this influence, the lives of many Muslims are being corrupted.

It is imperative that we protect ourselves and our children from the huge rush to gather boyfriends and girlfriends.

Many of these relationships happen in secret to prevent parents from finding out but at the same time there is guilt which settles in the heart and after a few months, a God conscious Muslim will realize that it is time to give up the haram and will do it despite the sadness and the ’emotional rollercoaster’.

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70 Major sins in Islam every Muslim must avoid

Major sins in Islam

Major sins in Islam are defined as what is forbidden by Allah and His Messenger in the Qur’an and the Sunnah in addition to what is narrated on the authority of early Muslims. Allah promised that whoever avoids the major sins, He will expiate his minor sins. Allah says:

If you avoid the great sins which you are forbidden to do, We shall remit from you your (small) sins, and admit you to a Noble Entrance (i.e. Paradise). Quran 4:31

The Prophet (pbuh) said,

“The five prescribed Prayers, and from one Friday Prayer to another and from Ramadan to another entail forgiveness for what is between them as long as you do not commit the major sins.”

We are obliged to learn about what the major sins are, so that Muslims may avoid them. Scholars of Sacred knowledge are of different opinions about the number of the major sins. It is argued that they are only seven owing to the Prophet’s (pbuh) saying,

“Avoid the seven heinous sins: Worshipping others with Allah, sorcery, taking a life which Allah has made sacred except in the course of justice, devouring usury, appropriating the property of the orphan, fleeing from the battlefield, and charging believing women, unmindful though innocent, with adultery.”

Ibn Abbas holds that they are likely counted as seventy, not seven. That is a good point of view because enumeration is not intended in the Hadith.

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As a matter of fact, any sin entailing either a threat of punishment in the Hereafter explicitly mentioned by the Qur’an or Hadith, a prescribed legal penalty is called a major sin. We have to bear in mind that some major sins are most heinous than another. Below are list of some major sins in Islam.

  1. Ascribing Associates to Allah, The Most High (Shirk)
  2. Killing a Human Being
  3. Sorcery
  4. Not Performing the Prayer
  5. Not Paying Zakat
  6. Breaking One’s Fast During Ramadan without an Excuse
  7. Not Performing the Hajj When Able to do so
  8. Showing Disrespect to One’s Parents
  9. Severing the Ties of One’s Relatives
  10. Adultery
  11. Sodomy
  12. Accepting Usurious Gain
  13. Wrong Consuming an Orphan’s Property
  14. Lying About the Prophet
  15. Fleeing From the Battlefield
  16. The Leader Who Misleads His Followers, the Tyrant and the Oppressor
  17. Arrogance, Pride, Conceit, Vanity and Haughtiness
  18. Bearing False Witness
  19. Drinking Alcohol
  20. Gambling (Qimar)
  21. Accusing a Woman of Adultery
  22. Misappropriating Spoils of War, Muslim Funds or Zakat
  23. Theft
  24. Highwaymen Who Menace the Road
  25. The Engulfing Oath
  26. Taking People’s Property through Falsehood
  27. Collecting Taxes
  28. The Consumption of Haram
  29. Suicide
  30. Telling Lies
  31. The Dishonest Judge
  32. Bribery
  33. Women Imitating Men and Vice Versa
  34. The Pimp and the One Who Permits His Wife to Fornicate
  35. Marrying Solely to Return to the Previous Husband
  36. Not Freeing Oneself of All Traces of Urine
  37. Showing off in Good Work
  38. Learning Sacred Knowledge for the Sake of this World or Concealing It
  39. Breach of Faith
  40. Reminding Recipients of One’s Charity to Them
  41. Disbelieving in Destiny
  42. Listening to the People’s Private Conversations
  43. The Talebearer Who Stirs Up Enmity between People
  44. Cursing Others
  45. Breaking One’s Promise or Pledge
  46. Believing Fortunetellers and Astrologers
  47. A Wife’s Rebellion against Her Husband
  48. Picture-making
  49. Loudly Lamenting For the Dead or When Afflicted With an Adversity
  50. Excess Against Others
  51. Overburdening and Arrogance against Others
  52. Hurting One’s Neighbor
  53. Hurting or Reviling Muslims
  54. Harming the Servants of Allah
  55. Dragging the Hem of One’s Garment Out of Conceit
  56. Men Wearing Silk or Gold
  57. Fleeing of the Slave
  58. Slaughtering in Other Than Allah’s Name
  59. Falsely Claiming Someone is One’s Father
  60. Arguing, Picking Apart Another’s Words, and Quarreling
  61. Withholding Excess Water from Others
  62. Stinting When Weighing or Measuring Out Goods and Similar Merchandise
  63. Feeling Secure From Allah’s Devising
  64. Despairing of the Mercy of Allah and Losing of Hope
  65. Forgoing the Congregational Prayer to Pray Alone Without a Legal Excuse
  66. Constantly Missing the Friday and Congregational Prayer without a Valid Excuse
  67. Bringing Loss to the Bequest
  68. Deception and Evil Schemes
  69. Spying on the Muslims and Revealing Their Weaknesses
  70. Disparaging the Companions of the Prophet

Major sins in Islam

Major sins in Islam

Major sins in Islam

Major sins in Islam

Major sins in Islam

Major sins in Islam

Major sins in Islam

May Allah forgive us our sins and protect us from all kind of sins.