Praise be to Allah the almighty, we seek His help and His forgiveness. We seek refuge with Allah from the evil of our own souls and from our bad deeds. Whomsoever Allah guides will never be led astray, and whomsoever Allah leaves astray, no one can guide. I bear witness that there is no god but Allah, and I bear witness that Mohammad is His slave and Messenger.
Many desire to live their conjugal lives in harmony with Islamic teachings and have a genuine inclination to learn, but are prevented by the embarrassment of asking a scholar directly.
I realised that there is real need for a comprehensive work on the subject if Muslims are to live their lives in conformity with the teachings of the Qur’an and Sunnah.
Owing to this great need, and the significance of the issue for married couples, I decided to research to prepare a detailed and comprehensive work to be published on this blog, so that the embarrassment of asking a scholar directly will be put to rest.
Alongside I may need to use words like (penis, anus, vagina etc), this is exactly the reason you cannot ask someone. But since you really need to know the truth about this topic, just keep calm and enjoy my post.
The spread of pornography has increased the prevalence of both oral and anal sex which is commonly practiced by many couples. Some Muslims are frequently asking about the Islamic viewpoint on these forms of sex (i.e. Oral and anal sex).
Unfortunately, some people shy away from discussing these matters altogether, while others regard any discussion on topics like this to be offensive.
What we need to know is that, in order to ensure that one’s sex life is in harmony with Islamic teachings, it is very important to discuss the Islamic perspective on these forms of sex (i.e. Oral sex and anal sex).
But here is the case where there are two topics which both needs to be addressed; I will first of all take them one after the other. So this post is going to concern about anal sex.
As far as anal sex is concerned, it is categorically forbidden in Islam and is a major sin by consensus. There are also grave spiritual and established physical and psychological harms in anal sex. It is an unnatural and repulsive act that simply has no place in a Muslim’s sex life.
It is a practice of those whose nature has been distorted to prefer that which is filthy to that which is pure. Not only is anal sex sinful and harmful, it also violates the right of the wife, who is entitled to having offspring through vaginal sex with her spouse. Allah Most High says:
“They ask you concerning menstruation. Say: “It is an impurity. So Keep away from women during menstruation; and do not approach them until they are cleansed. But when they are cleansed, then approach them from where Allah has commanded you. Surely Allah loves those who are most repenting, and loves those who keep themselves pure. Your wives are tillage for you to cultivate. So approach your tillage from where you wish, but do some good act for yourselves beforehand; and fear Allah, and know that you are to meet Him, and give glad tidings to the believers.” [Qur’an 2: 222-223]
In the above verses, Allah Most High gives impurity as the reason for prohibiting sex during menstruation. Once a woman is cleansed from the impurity of blood, Allah Most High permits having sex with her but “from where Allah has commanded you” means in the vagina.
As vaginal sex is prohibited during menstruation because of temporary filth, being menstrual blood, then anal sex is undoubtedly unlawful since the anus is always polluted with filth.
The Messenger of Allah ~ also emphatically prohibited anal sex in many hadiths.
Sayyidina ‘Abdullah ibn Abbas (RA) relates that the Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said:
“Allah shall not [even] look [with kindness] at any man who enters another man or a woman in the anus.” (Sunan al-Tirmidhi 1165)
Sayyidina Abu Hurayra (RA) relates that the Messenger of Allah ~said:
“Cursed is he, who enters a woman in her anus.” (Sunan Abi Diiwild2155 and others)
The meaning of “being cursed is that one is distant from Divine Mercy, and an object of Divine Dislike. The Messenger of Allah cursed certain matters so that we take heed and avoid them. Sayyiduna Khuzayma ibn Thabit (RA) relates that the Messenger of Allah said:
“Allah is not ashamed of the truth [saying this thrice]. Do not enter women in their anuses.” (Sunan Ibn Majah 1924, Musnad Ahmad & others)
These, and many others. Evidences are clear in the prohibition of anal sex even with one’s own wife. This is in addition to the fact that anal sex causes undue pain and is a source of many diseases widespread in today’s promiscuous society.
As such, it is unlawful and sinful for the husband to penetrate in his wife’s anus.
However, it is permitted for him, under normal circumstances, to touch the surrounding and outside area of the anus, even by rubbing his Manhood in between her buttocks or groin, as long as there is no penetration and as long as that area is not soiled with filth.
The husband is permitted to touch and caress any part of his wife’s body which includes the area outside of the anus. This, however, is only permitted if he is certain of avoiding penetration, otherwise abstaining from that area altogether is necessary.
I just hope that my explanation is enough for this topic. Send me an mail if you have further questions but feels shy to share to others in person.